I was listening to the Dennis Prager Show this afternoon, and his guest was a doctor who has written a book on the how an enormous number of women are eschewing secular careers in favor of motherhood. I called to comment and actually spoke with Mr. Prager. I stated that I had received 100% support from family and like-minded (read: conservative) friends regarding our decision to have me stay at home with Georgie, while more left-leaning people had suggested that I was “setting back the feminist movement” by giving up a career to raise my son. Others have said,”you’re so lucky that you can stay home!” Luck has absolutely nothing to do with it — it’s hard work and sacrifice and planning for the past seven years that make my staying home possible. We cut our income practically in half when I quit — that’s no easy feat, even though we’ve been living off of one income for over a year now. And the truth of the matter is, I will need to return to work part-time in order to save for our retirement. As far as college… well, he (and any future siblings) had better get scholarships and part-time jobs to save up for Tri-C! We’ll do what we can to help out, but we are not going to be able to foot the bill for higher education. Private schooling or homeschooling curriculae will be expensive enough.
It seems that a large percentage of companies are not willing to be flexible with the type of schedule a new mother needs. Now, my company was willing to let me cut down my hours (after they did the math, I’m sure they realized they would save big bucks and maintain full coverage by letting me work part-time) but driving out to the East side five days a week, four hours a day made no sense for us financially. I’m finding that my company was in the minority; many are tight-fisted with regards to flexible policies. I remember interviewing for a job back in 1995 and the interviewer asked me, “Off the record… do you plan on having children any time soon?” First, it was illegal to ask that, second, it was none of her business. But she didn’t want to hire and train someone that was going to quit within 2 years to have a kid.
Speaking of part-time jobs, I just had an interview with a local private library for a part-time evenings Help Desk position. I could imagine no better place to work than the library. Keep your fingers crossed for me!